In 1995 there was a Do It Yourself phase. The famous TV show Home Improvement was the show to watch, showing how easy it is to do projects yourself. Online dating sites launched, making the act of finding dates the latest Do it yourself project and altering the world of dating forever.
Today more people in Canada are going online to find true love. While there’s a plethora of dating websites with all the trappings of a good thing, not much of the grievances we hear have changed.
The statistics show 1 in 5 relationships start online, that’s only 18%, 4 in 5 don't. This means 82% of couples are making contact in a different way. We have countless clients as a matchmakers in Toronto that have done the online dating and it was never successful for them. Thousands of people, men and women, have come to my office and told me their frustrating adventures with online dating. We’ve listened to very entertaining and unusual stories!!!
Did you know that most people cancel their online dating subscription within 90 days? Mainly due to frustration. From my experience as a professional matchmaker in Toronto We have outlined the most talked about issues below, so you can see it’s not just you. Then as a gift from me to you, We give a quick and easy solution to every point made.
Check and see if this process sounds familiar. Maybe you've experienced some or all of these...
Month One
You suffer with figuring out how to describe yourself in 200 words or less. You spend hours, days even, and maybe even decide for some liquid courage to inspire you. Unfortunately your still stuck and decide to ask your friends, family, even a co-worker to help you read and reread or change what you have worked on so far. Maybe you opt for the “I’m not good at selling myself” or “Details to come.”
The one great photo you have is with your ex and so you try to figure out how to crop it. Or you spend hours on a mini photoshoot soon realizing the pictures are all useless.
At first you get excited with the sea of never ending singles, there’s soooo many options! You figure since there is so many then why not be as specific as possible, you don’t want to waste your time.
- Photos is the first step of Elimination
You’re on a mission, you swipe past everyone who doesn't spark an instant attraction. This is when you hit your first disappointment, many of the very attractive photos are scammers.
- Every Word on Profiles is Important
You stay up late at night reading every profile, choosing the profiles that put thought and interest in their bios, and eliminate the people who've made grammatical errors. There are so many profiles, you can be this picky.
You spend an enormous amount of time writing responses to everyone, even a personal rejection message explaining why you may not be interested in them.
Excitement comes when you begin getting winked at or favorited. You send a message but never get a response back.
- Wait Anxiously for Responses
Only a number of people actually respond to your messages. On the other hand you’re getting a ton of messages from people you'd never be interested in!
You dedicate a ton of time having long and detailed conversations via the messaging platform, sharing personal information you wouldn’t normally share so quickly.
- The Conversion of Pen Pals
Maybe your efforts pay off and you find The One! You can converse with them about anything, the time just flies when you’re talking but you technically never met. The communication is all via the messaging platform or by phone calls. You find out this person is out of the city, or out of the country, or worse you meet up but there is absolutely no chemistry.
Month Two
The majority of the people you were talking too all of the sudden disappear. The hours, days, weeks you spent cultivating a relationship was all for nothing. You begin to feel rejected, without a clue as to why these people stopped talking to you.
You start to think whether or not you’re good enough for dating because the people you really want to meet aren't responding.
You figure it’s probably your profile. You write out the next great biography known to man.
- Post More Pictures, It’s all about the PICTURES!
Of course it’s your pictures! You realize if you are deducing people based on pictures then your fighting chance is posting really awesome pictures. You add some exciting shots of your many adventures like skydiving or scuba diving.
You decide it's a numbers game and the best way to get results is to gorilla market yourself. You create a message suitable for all and begin to cut, paste and send to everyone.
You want an extravagant date when you do get one, it must be the best! So you find the most expensive and longest dinner reservation possible.
On your long and expensive date you realize the person is married, not the age claimed, and looks nothing like their profile picture.
The date went great! But they never return your calls or texts again.
Frustrated with these fakers, you update your profile to explain you want nothing to do with liars, married people, or those who aren't serious!
Your date cancels or you cancel. The reasons can be as follows, A) you really don’t want to be disheartened by the person or B) your scared to go on the date or C) notorious for never following through.
Month Three - Weeks 1, 2 & 3
You cut to the chase with these candidates. Messaging is a waste of time with the minimal results received.
You try the old fashion way of meeting in person first before talking with them via messaging platform.
Date over the phone, while in your pj’s fishing for a reason to not meet up. Ask intrusive and personal questions to determine their seriousness in dating someone.
You insert a statement in your profile like "Will not respond to winks or favorites, only serious emails".
Month Three - Week 4
Your frustrated and done, after 90 days you cancel your subscription deciding online dating is the one to blame.
As a last ditch effort to attain some kind of return on your investment, you add a sentence in your bio “My membership has been cancelled, this is your last chance to contact me before I’m gone forever”
You think the loss of your love can’t be denied to the many people looking for love on these online dating platforms and so you email the people again explaining they have this one last chance to contact you.
Month 6 - 12
It has been a year later and you're still single. One of your friends has met someone great or you see commercials of online dating services and think maybe this is the right time for you. You think maybe you didn’t do it correctly the first time and decide to join again. Your ecstatic at first but eventually go through the above process all over again!
So What Happens NOW?
The DIY trend has expired. Many people agree that the do it yourself is harder than it looks. After spending money and time, these singles give up on their DIY project of love and hire a specialist.
Toronto Matchmakers get the job done effortlessly, quickly, and affordably.
You are an intelligent individual who doesn’t waste time and money in other areas of your life, why then short change your love life then? Answer us this, what would you do if you had a car problem? You probably wouldn’t try to fix it yourself even if it was to change the light bulb for your headlight. Or how about installing your flat screen TV on your wall? You most likely hire a specialist to make sure everything works correctly. What do you do when you can’t find the person of your dreams? Work with a matchmaker in Toronto.
So, what is my number one solution to your dating problems?
Call us. Yes, call us for a FREE 15 minutes phone consultation. Why would you call a professional for everything but your love life? We can and will set you up on dates so fast you will kick yourself why you didn’t call us sooner.
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